What’s the REAL issue?
Here’s another question about “Stepping into Emotional Pressure.”
Q. In your story, you never mentioned specifics on the issues that you and Don were in disagreement about. Why not?
A. Have you ever faced a situation where the issues came up one after another, and seemed to never end? Just as you solve the current “high pain” [...]
An ultimatum?
The following question came from a thoughtful viewer of the “Stepping into Emotional Pressure” video:
Q. Alright, so you got clear on how YOU wanted to work, and communicated that to Don. How is that different from giving him an ultimatum?
A. At the broadest level I agree that yes I presented an ultimatum, albeit one having special [...]
Alignment
Don was surprised. He seemed to be expecting me to say something different. My guess is that he thought I’d go to any lengths to keep him on the team. For a while he said nothing.
Finally he responded: “It’s true, you can’t change what happened with the old manager. It’s not like I’m about to [...]
Making my move
Now that I was clear on where I stood with regards to not just leadership in general, but the dynamic with “Don” in particular, I was ready to move forward.
Here’s where it gets tricky. I may be very clear on where I stand and what I want, but I have no control over what the [...]
